Tuesday, June 11, 2013
How to Create Self-Esteem Without Creating a Brat
So how does the gospel speak into parenting on this issue?
A Christian's worth comes primarily not from what they can do, or accomplish, or are good at, or get paid for, rather a Christian's worth comes from the fact that they are loved by Christ and accepted by him unconditionally through Christ's forgiveness of sin.
So for a Christian parent, your child's primary sense of worth must come from their belonging to your family and your unconditional love. Please don't hitch your child's self-esteem to their competence or performance or they will be riding that wagon until the day they die. Certainly, it's not bad to praise your children when they perform well. But their sense of self-worth must be intimately tied to their unconditional belonging in the family and your unconditional love for them.